BDSMJOY Silicone Double Dildo Review: XXL size, soft feel, but a bit too floppy

I grabbed this BDSMJOY silicone double dildo mainly out of curiosity. The XXL size, the double-ended format, and the realistic look all sounded fun on paper, especially for shared play or deep solo sessions. The description promises flexibility, high-quality silicone, and a realistic feel, so I went in expecting something solid for the price, not a luxury toy but at least something practical and usable in different positions.

After a few sessions, my overall feeling is pretty mixed. On some points it delivers: the material feels nice on the skin, there’s no nasty smell, the finish is clean, and the length is definitely there if you like deep penetration or want to play with both ends. On the other hand, there’s one big recurring issue: it’s very soft and floppy. For some people that’s a plus, for others it’s a deal-breaker. Personally, I’m somewhere in the middle: I like the comfort and safety of the softness, but it makes insertion and certain positions a pain.

I tested it both solo and with a partner, and I also compared it to a couple of other double dildos I have that are a bit firmer. In direct comparison, you really feel that this one bends more and doesn’t hold itself as well. If you’re used to toys that have a bit of internal firmness or a core, this one is going to feel like a wet noodle at first. You can work around it, but you have to adapt your way of using it.

So overall, it’s not a bad product, but it’s clearly not for everyone. If you like very soft, flexible toys and you’re into XXL dimensions, you’ll probably get along with it. If you want something you can ride hard or that holds a straight shape on its own, you’re going to get frustrated pretty quickly. I’ll break it down in more detail below: design, materials, comfort, performance, durability, packaging, and value for money.

On value for money, I’d say it really depends on your expectations and your habits with sex toys. The price is in the mid-range for a large silicone double dildo. You clearly pay for the quantity of material: it’s long, it’s thick, it’s heavy. Compared to some cheaper PVC or TPE toys, the fact that it’s silicone, odorless, and well finished is a plus. If you specifically want a very flexible, XXL, realistic double dildo, you get what you pay for.

Where it becomes more debatable is if you were expecting something a bit firmer or more versatile. Several buyers complain that it’s too soft and not what they wanted. I understand them: the product page insists on flexibility, but until you have it in hand, it’s hard to imagine just how floppy it is. If you end up using it only once or twice because you find it unmanageable, the value for money drops fast. For roughly the same budget, you can find toys that are a bit smaller but more balanced in terms of firmness and usability.

In my case, I use it from time to time for specific moods: when I want slow, deep, soft sensations, or when I play with a partner who prefers gentle toys. For that, it’s good. But it hasn’t become my go-to toy, far from it. I reach for more versatile, slightly firmer dildos more often. So I see this one more as a niche toy in my collection rather than a main item. In that role, the price is acceptable, but not a bargain.

If I had to sum up: good value if you know you want this profile (very soft, big, double-ended, realistic). Average value if you’re hesitating or if this is your first big toy. In that case, I’d almost say start with a slightly smaller and firmer one before jumping on this model.

Design-wise, the toy is pretty straightforward: a long, double-ended dildo with a glans at each end and veins running along the shaft. The details are well done without being over the top. In the hand, the shape is pleasant, no sharp seams, and the finish looks clean. If you like realistic toys, this one is in that style: it looks like two penises joined in the middle, but in a continuous curve. The black color is neutral and hides potential small marks or lint better than lighter colors.

The big thing to keep in mind is the size. The XL version is already quite thick at around 3.6 cm, and the XXL at about 4.8 cm is really on the large side. For vaginal use, if you’re used to medium toys, it’s doable but it stretches you. For anal, you clearly need experience and a lot of lube, especially with the XXL. One user said the thinner one (around 35 mm) is already pretty filling, and the thicker one (around 44–45 mm measured) requires some practice. I agree: the diameter is not “beginner-friendly” and you should not start your anal journey with this size.

The other key design point is the flexibility. The toy is very bendy along the whole length, there’s no firmer base or area. That has pros and cons. Pros: it’s more comfortable once inside, follows the body’s curves better, and reduces the risk of painful angles. Cons: insertion can be annoying, especially solo, because the tip tends to bend instead of sliding in. For double penetration (vaginal + anal) or for two people using it at the same time, you really feel that it lacks internal support; it tends to curve in the middle instead of staying straight.

For riding, it’s frankly not ideal. Some people tried to fix it in stacked weight plates to keep it upright, and that kind of hack works a bit for the thinner version, but not really for the XXL. Without a suction cup or a solid core, you’re limited to using your hands or improvising supports. So in terms of design, I’d say: realistic look and good finish, but the combination of big diameter + high flexibility + no base makes it less versatile than it could be. If they had added a bit more firmness or at least a thicker central core, it would be easier to handle.

In terms of comfort, it’s a bit of a two-sided story. Once the toy is in place, the softness becomes a real advantage. The silicone adapts to the body, you don’t feel any hard pressure points, and it’s pleasant both vaginally and anally if you’re used to the diameter. The realistic veins are present but not aggressive, they add a bit of texture without scraping the mucosa. For longer sessions, the softness is clearly more comfortable than a very rigid dildo of the same size would be.

Where things get more complicated is during insertion, especially solo. Because the dildo is so flexible, the tip tends to bend instead of sliding in, especially if you’re trying to insert it at a slight angle or in a position where you don’t see what you’re doing. With lube it’s easier, but you still have to guide it well with your hand and sometimes use the other hand to stabilize the middle. For vaginal use, it’s manageable; for anal use, it’s a bit more work, and you really have to go slowly and use plenty of lube.

For double penetration (vaginal + anal on one person) or for two people using it at the same time, it’s even more obvious. The toy tends to bend in the middle if one side pushes more than the other. It’s doable, but you have to coordinate well and accept that it won’t stay perfectly straight. Some will like that because it makes the whole thing softer and less aggressive; others will find it annoying because it reduces the feeling of control and intensity. One reviewer also mentions that the thinner version gives better sensations because it slides more easily in and out, while the thicker one is more work.

So comfort-wise, I’d say: very good once inserted, especially for longer use and for those who are sensitive or afraid of rigid toys. But average for insertion and handling, because the flexibility works against you at the start. And of course, the XXL diameter is not for everyone; beginners or those who prefer small toys will not find this comfortable at all, regardless of the softness of the silicone.

On the material side, BDSMJOY advertises “liquid silicone”, and overall I’d say the material quality is pretty solid for this price range. When you open the package, there is basically no chemical smell. That’s already a good sign, especially compared to some cheap toys that reek of plastic or rubber. Several Amazon reviewers also mention there’s no smell and that the surface is smooth and pleasant to the touch, and I had the same impression.

The silicone is soft and skin-friendly. When you squeeze it, it gives easily, and it doesn’t feel sticky. The surface is slightly matte, which is nice because it doesn’t become a slippery bar of soap as soon as you put a bit of lube on it. It’s compatible with water-based lube (which I recommend here given the size), and it’s easy to clean with soap and water. Being fully waterproof, you can rinse it thoroughly in the shower without worrying. No visible defects on mine: no bubbles, no rough seams, nothing weird in the molding.

The flip side of this softness is the lack of internal structure. There’s no firmer core, it’s just silicone all the way through. That’s great for comfort and safety—you’re not going to hurt yourself on a rigid edge—but it makes the toy very flexible. For some uses, like deep anal or double penetration, that can be nice because it follows the body. But for insertion or when you want precision, it’s annoying, because the tip bends at the slightest resistance. That’s exactly what some reviewers complain about when they say it’s “too soft” or “floppy”.

Personally, I prefer toys that have a mix of softness on the outside and a bit of firmness inside. Here, you only get the soft side. So I’d rate the material quality itself as good: no smell, pleasant feel, safe enough for the skin as far as I can tell. But the choice of firmness will not please everyone. If you know you like very soft toys, you’ll be happy. If you like toys that hold their shape and are easy to guide, you might find this one a bit frustrating.

For packaging, BDSMJOY promises neutral, discrete packaging to protect your privacy, and on that point, they deliver. The outer box that arrives at your place doesn’t scream “sex toy”, and inside, the dildo is packed in a simple plastic bag or basic inner box, depending on the seller. There’s no big logo or explicit photo on the shipping box, so if you live with roommates or family, it’s not obvious what you ordered.

Inside, don’t expect luxury. There’s no storage pouch, no detailed manual, no extra accessories. It’s really the bare minimum: the toy and sometimes a small paper or sticker with the brand. Personally, I don’t mind too much; I prefer they put the cost into the material rather than a fancy box. But if you like unboxing with a bit of effort on the presentation, here it’s very basic. For a toy of this size and weight, a slightly thicker inner box or some padding would be nice, but mine arrived without any damage.

The good thing with neutral packaging is you can toss the outer box quickly and store the dildo elsewhere without raising too many questions. On the other hand, the absence of a storage bag is a bit annoying, especially for a silicone toy that easily catches dust and hair. I ended up using a random fabric pouch I had at home, but it would be nice if the brand included at least a simple bag, even a cheap one.

So for packaging: discrete and functional, but very basic. If you want something gift-ready or with a premium feel, this isn’t it. If all you care about is that the product arrives intact and no one guesses what’s inside the parcel, it does the job.

On durability, I don’t have several years of hindsight of course, but after a series of uses and cleanings, the dildo hasn’t changed shape, discolored, or shown any cracks. The silicone seems dense and robust. It’s heavy in the hand, which gives a bit of confidence that it won’t tear at the first bend. I twisted it, bent it, and washed it repeatedly with warm water and mild soap, and there’s no sign of damage so far.

The fact that it’s fully waterproof makes maintenance simple: you rinse it well, maybe use a toy cleaner if you like, then let it air dry. Because it’s black and matte, you see dust and lint a bit less than on light-colored toys, but it still attracts some, like all silicone. I store it in a separate pouch to avoid it rubbing against other toys, especially those made from different materials. Basic rule: silicone with silicone is generally fine, but I prefer not to stack everything together.

The only small concern I could have over the long term is related to the weight and flexibility. With a very soft and long toy, if you always store it bent in the same way or under other objects, I can imagine it might deform slightly over time. For now, that hasn’t happened, but I’d recommend storing it flat or hanging, without folding it too much. Also avoid sharp objects in the same drawer that could nick the silicone.

Overall, for this price, the durability looks pretty solid. It’s not a luxury high-end brand, but the molding is clean, the material holds up, and the maintenance is easy. If you take minimum care of it (cleaning + proper storage), I don’t see why it wouldn’t last a good while. The weak point is not really the lifespan, it’s more the usability related to the softness, but that’s another topic.

On performance, it really depends on what you’re looking for. If your goal is deep penetration and filling sensations, this dildo does the job. The length lets you go very deep vaginally or anally (if you’re used to it), and you can also play with both ends: for example, one end in the vagina and the other in the anus, or share it with a partner. The realistic shape and veins add a bit of stimulation, and the softness makes the movements more forgiving. You can angle it slightly towards the G-spot or prostate thanks to the flexibility, which is a good point.

That said, if you’re into more vigorous play or you like to ride your toys, this one is not the best option. It’s simply too floppy. You can’t really plant it on a surface and bounce on it, it just bends. Without a suction cup or a rigid base, you have to hold it or find a DIY mounting system, like the person who stuck the thinner one into stacked weight plates. For the XXL version, it’s even harder because the weight makes it sag more. You feel that the toy is designed more for slow, controlled thrusting than for rough riding.

Another point: because the diameter is large, especially on XXL, you don’t necessarily need a lot of movement to feel something. A few centimeters in and out can already give strong sensations. That’s good if you like the feeling of being stretched and filled, but if you’re more into faster, deeper thrusts, the combination of size + softness can be tiring: you have to guide, hold, and adjust constantly. For two people using it at the same time, it’s fun, but it requires coordination and communication; otherwise the middle bends and one of you loses the angle.

In short, performance is decent if you know what you’re getting into: slow, deep, soft play. For quick, intense sessions or for those who like firm, precise toys, it will feel a bit underwhelming. It’s not bad, but the design limits the range of positions and styles that really work well.

On paper, this BDSMJOY double dildo comes in two sizes: XL (around 39 cm long, 3.6 cm diameter) and XXL (around 49 cm long, 4.8 cm diameter). I went for the bigger one, because if I’m buying a double dildo labeled XXL, I kind of want to go all in. The toy is black, double-ended, with glans and veins molded into the silicone to look more realistic. It’s marketed for women, lesbian couples, and also as a toy you can use both vaginally and anally, solo or with a partner.

Out of the box, the first impression is: this thing is long and heavy. One Amazon reviewer called it a “weapon” and I get what they mean. It’s not a little discreet toy you forget in a drawer; it’s a big chunk of silicone that fills the hand and weighs a bit. If you’re not used to large toys, just visually it can be a bit intimidating, especially the XXL version with the 4.8 cm diameter. For anal use, that’s clearly not for beginners, you need some preparation and lube.

The brand highlights that it’s made of “liquid silicone”, very flexible and waterproof. In practice, it really is bendy: you can almost fold it in half without effort. The surface is smooth but with realistic details, the glans and veins are visible but not sharp or aggressive. It has no suction cup and no rigid core inside, it’s just a big flexible rod of silicone. That’s important because it completely changes how you can use it: you can’t really fix it somewhere and ride it easily, you have to hold it or improvise a support like one reviewer did with weight plates.

So in terms of presentation, it matches the description: long, thick, flexible, realistic look, neutral black color. If you want something discreet or small, this is clearly not it. If you want a big, soft, shared toy, it ticks the boxes on paper, but you have to be aware of the flexibility point from the start because it really defines the whole experience.